Blog: Acquaintance Abuse and Assault: Building Awareness of Social Challenges

Part One

September 9, 2011   I have chosen this week’s blog as an outcome of recent news stories. On August 18, 2011, Texas Christian University (TCU) campus police received a call from a female student who reported that she had been sexually assaulted in a residence hall by someone she knew.  Four days later, another female student reported a sexual assault by an acquaintance in a residence hall.  On Aug. 26, Fort Worth police contacted TCU campus police to alert them that a sexual assault had occurred several blocks south of the campus. The reported victim appeared to know the attacker in that case as well.  According to the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN), acquaintance assault involves coercive sexual activities that occur against a person’s will by means of force, violence, duress, or fear of bodily injury. These sexual activities are imposed upon a victim by someone they know (a friend, date, acquaintance, etc.).

Currently, one in four sexual assaults is acquaintance rape, verses “stranger rape”.  Acquaintance rape may not occur as much as “stranger rape” but acquaintance assaults are escalating among young women between the ages of 16 and 24.  Increasingly, acquaintance assaults are occurring on college campuses.  Sexual assault is, among other things, a crime of opportunity, which means that there may also be opportunities for a young woman to decrease her vulnerability. 

  • Stay alert, sober, in control, and empowered.
  • Trust her intuition.
  • Find safety in numbers.

Keep in mind that the perpetrator of this type of assault is operating under a rapist’s mental mandate to wield power over and control his victim.  Therefore, some behavior patterns may be observable before an assault.  When that big red bell alert, called intuition, starts yelling to “steer clear”, the young woman should do it.

My message to young women: Be wary of date rape drugs by being conscious and consistently aware of what you consume.  These drugs have no odor or color. Their taste is negligible. They can cause amnesia, which will exacerbate the situation.  Being truly aware will require you to literally baby sit your beverage which should come in a can or bottle–one that you opened yourself.  Never leave it unattended at parties and social events.   

Finally, remember when you were little and went on field trips in elementary school and were trained to partner with a buddy?  Do that again.  Partner with people you can trust. Discuss the rules of “having someone’s back” with your friends and vow to honor the rules. 

There’s one last point I want to make to both young men and women.  Keep an eye on both your male and female acquaintances.  Be observant for vulnerable or violent behavior in people around you.  One in five women will be the victim of a sexual assault.  One in nine teen girls is forced to have sex.  In either case, one is too many.  If you prevent one assault, you will have prevented a lifetime of pain for someone. 

Note:  I was inspired to cover this topic by Vice President Joseph Biden who authored the landmark Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) as a Senator.  It was signed into law on September 13, 1994. As Senator Biden, he was inspired to move this bill because the highest rates of rape and sexual assault occur with young women aged 16-24.  His recent video message that marked the anniversary of the bill is accessible below.  I will cover abuse of teen girls by boyfriends in a future blog.   

Until next week –

 My best,

 Lori

 Sources:

 Video Message, Vice President Biden Calls on New Generation to Take Action in Preventing Dating Violence and Sexual Assault at School and On Campus

Girls Speak Out, http://www.girlsspeakout.org/resources/WSTP.php

Star-Telegram, Posted Saturday, Sep. 10, 2011, by Diane Smith; Three sexual-assault cases reported at or near TCU over nine days http://www.star-telegram.com/2011/09/10/3357087/three-sexual-assault-cases-reported.html
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/acquaintance-rape

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2011 Fall Programming for Girls in 1st Grade – High School in a Nutshell

September 12, 2011

During the four weeks between the end of our Girls Inc. summer session in July and the beginning of our fall afterschool session on September 6, the programming staff at Girl’s Inc. shifted into a high-energy strategic planning mode.  They tackled three important tasks. First, they set a goal to grow the number of girls we serve from 805 per year to 1020 during the 2011-2012 year.  Second, they determined how this growth would be demographically and geographically achieved based on current census statistics and the number and size of the DISD feeder schools in the communities in which our four Girls Inc. campuses are located. Third, they developed robust recruitment plans tailored for each campus.

In order to grow the number of girls we serve will require us to mirror the statistical growth of Dallas captured by the 2010 census—the Hispanic population in Dallas increased 42 percent from 2000 to 2010.  The team’s recruitment efforts include Spanish language fliers and brochures along with increasingly more direct contact with area school administrators and parents. 

The next task for staff was to calendar the frequency of each program curriculum and plan the associated activities to deliver them to each age group. The groups are: first grade through third grade; fourth grade through fifth grade; middle school, which is sixth grade through eighth grade; and high school. The team prepared grade-appropriate programming that supports our goals to inspire girls to be strong, smart, and bold, to be competent academically, and to possess the skills that young people need to succeed in the world of work and career. The programming also includes activities that help students develop the ability to be personally effective.  We refer to all of these competencies as PAC: Personal Effectiveness, Academic, and Career Planning Competencies. 

All campus directors and facilitators are operating in high gear because we are now in our second week of after school programming.  So, you are probably wondering what a week of scheduled activities might look like for the girls at Girls Inc.  Hope you enjoy the list below!

Grades 1 through 5

The traditional disciplines of reading, writing, social and global studies, with a heavy infusion of science, technology, engineering and math, are included throughout each month along with physical activity and nutrition.   Here are some examples of a week’s schedule. 

 One Week View for Grades 1st – 3rd  (September 12-16):

Monday:           Mind and Body – Healthy Food Detective

Tuesday:          Counting on the Mayans – Learning the Mayan Calendar

Wednesday:     Mexican-American Quilting History – Creating Mexican Inspired Quilts

Thursday:        Volunteerism – Complete, Mexican Inspired, No-Sew Quilts for Catholic               Charities

Friday:             Viva! Friday – Family Lotería (This is a Mexican game similar to Bingo.)

One Week View for Grades 4th – 5th (September 26-30):

Monday:           The Greenhouse Effect in a Jar:  What on Earth Affects Climate?

Tuesday:           Waste Audit – Measuring Our Trash

Wednesday:      Me, We and the World Globe

Thursday:         Making Recycling Bins

Friday:               Recycled Art Competition

Middle School-One Week View 6th – 8th (September 19-23):

Monday:           Capital One Visit – The Dangers of Texting While Driving (South, West-Build IT)

Tuesday:           Global Citizenship – What does it mean to be poor?

Wednesday:      College & Career Readiness – Building and organizing a personal portfolio, Part 2

Thursday:         Healthy Lifestyles – Dealing with peer pressure. 

Friday:               Let’s Move (Field Day-Relays and Races)

 High School

The high school students are being offered several innovative educational courses during the 2011-2012 academic school year.  One is a six-week portrait photography course taught by Colby Kruger, a photographer and Southern Methodist University (SMU) student.  The classes will be held at The Women’s Museum: An Institute for the Future, and include the loan of a digital camera for each girl to use during the course.  The cameras are being made available to the girls thanks to a grant from SMU.

 The high school girls can also take a course in theater, performance, and production at the Dallas Children’s Theater.  Attendance at all performances of the season are included on an “ability to pay” basis.   The girls will participate in workshops about careers in the performing arts that include directing, acting, set design, wardrobe design, make-up, and technical production.  They will also participate in discussions on the teen issues portrayed in the play, The Secret Life of Girls.

 In addition, the Girls Inc. fall schedule includes college visits to Austin College in Sherman and Navarro College.   There will also be an opportunity for community service in serving as volunteers with Shoes for Orphans.  Throughout the entire semester, the high school teens will have access to the campus computer labs for homework and career research. 

During the fall, we will continue to roll out new programs and educational ventures including a new course on “Global Citizenship”.  This is an exciting time at Girls Inc.

 I encourage you to visit our Facebook page, by following girlsincdallas, to see actual photographs and videos of girls participating in a range of innovative educational activities at Girls Inc. 

 Have a great week!

 My best,

 Lori

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Blog: Girls Incorporated of Metropolitan Dallas Explores the Question, “What is a Girl?”

September 6, 2011

After considerable thought and planning, I am excited to announce the First Annual Girls Inc. of Metropolitan Dallas Lecture Series, “What is a girl?”.  By partnering with The Dallas Institute for Humanities and Culture we’ve created a perfect synergy to conduct the four lectures.  The first lecture will be held on Wednesday, September 7, 2011, at 6:00 p.m., at The Dallas Institute for Humanities and Culture.  The facility is located at 2719 Routh Street, Dallas, TX, 75201.  Join us first for a reception, then the lecture at 6:30 p.m. followed by an open discussion. 

 The first lecture, What is a Girl? Traditional and Contemporary Archetypes of Girls will be presented by Dr. Claudia Allums, and will explore the idea of the Greek goddesses as the archetype of ways to perceive “the girl,” and will serve as the foundation for the Lecture Series.  Future lectures will build on the images of “the girl” from classicGreek mythology to consider how girls are characterized within our own cultural heritage.  Dr. Claudia Allums is Director of the Louise and Donald Cowan Center for Education at The Dallas Institute for Humanities and Culture. She began her teaching career in 1981, and has served as a high school teacher, department chair, and dean of curriculum and instruction.  Dr. Allums also served as a Visiting Assistant Professor of English and Associate Dean of both the Braniff Graduate School and the Constantin Undergraduate College at the University of Dallas. She holds a Ph.D. in Literature from the University of Dallas.

 You won’t want to miss Dr. Allums’ pointed and impactful presentation and discussion.  If you have not yet registered to attend, please go online to www.girlsincdallas.org or call (214) 654-4553.

 The subsequent lectures will be held on Wednesday evenings from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. on September 7th and November 2nd, 2011, and February 1st and April 4th, 2012.  Each event will begin with a thirty minute informal reception and the lecture will be followed by a panel discussion with audience participation.   You will be excited by the caliber of speakers and panelists, and a format that allows you to participate in the discussion.

 The second lecture, Girls on the Big Screen will be presented by film expert Dr. Scott Churchill who will explore the various images of the girl depicted in film—from innocence to experience, from victim to victor.  Dr. Scott Churchill’s lecture will be followed by a discussion with audience members by expanding the thought that film has become a major source of our cultural awareness, offering images that both delight and disturb.

 Dr. Scott Churchill is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Dallas.  He earned a Bachelor’s of Science from Bucknell University in Biology and Pre-med; a Master’s of Science in Psychology from Duquesne University; and a Ph.D., in Clinical Phenomenological Psychology also from Duquesne University.  His lecture will be held on Wednesday, November 2, 2011.

 Noted author Peggy Orenstein probes the question, What is a Girly-Girl?  Orenstein is the author of Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture. Having published numerous books, she is a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, Los Angeles Times, USA Today, and many other publications.

 Ms. Orenstein was recognized for her “Outstanding Coverage of Family Diversity,” by the Council on Contemporary Families and received a “Books for a Better Life Award” for Waiting for Daisy. Her work has also been honored by the Commonwealth Club of California, the National Women’s Political Caucus of California, and Planned Parenthood Federation of America.  Additional opportunities to meet the speaker may be available with purchase of a separate ticket. Ms. Orenstein’s lecture will be held on Wednesday, February 1, 2012.

 The final lecture of the series will be held on Wednesday, April 4, 2012. It will focus on What is a STEM Girl– Girls in Science, Engineering, Math and Technology?   This concluding program will consider the feminine role in scientific and theoretical fields, most if not all of which have traditionally been associated with men. How did such a tradition develop? In what ways is it changing? And what does the future hold for girls who are drawn to these professions? 

 Consider this your invitation to join us.  We hope to see you there.  Individual tickets are $25 and admission for all four lectures in the series is $90.  You can pre-register at www.girlsincdallas.org

 Until next week-

My best,

Lori

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Social Media Safety Begins with Parents and Educators

August 30, 2011

We teach our children to cross the street in a safe manner.  You know the drill, look left, then right, and left again before stepping off of the curb.  We tell them not to talk to strangers or fall for tales of lost puppies.  We teach them “SDR” – stop, drop and roll in case of fire.  When our children start school, we teach them a secret password that a person would need to quote if they were delivering a critical message from their parents.  We prepare our children to negotiate the world and be cognizant of potential dangers.

Still, there are so many children and adults who are seemingly unaware of the dangers lurking behind the colorful smart phone, iPad, and computer screens.  Digital technology, as reported recently by the American Academy of Pediatrics, offers benefits including increased communication, access to information, and help in developing a sense of self for tweens and teens.   According to the 2010 Pew Research Center Internet and American Life Social Networking Site Survey, seventy-two percent of children who are in high school or below have a profile on either Facebook or MySpace.  When children enter the digital universe by texting or interacting on Internet social sites, they are in effect entering a busy street where predators may be waiting for them.  Parents and educators must add social media safety to the list of warnings and best practices they regularly share with their children.  

For parents and educators two things are critical. First, set a good example by following safety tips as well.  Second, be observantly aware of how your children are using social media by initiating an ongoing dialogue. Several helpful websites are listed at the end of this blog.  Don’t consider your child’s social media a right for privacy; consider this area of their life as important as their bedroom and social interpersonal activities.  To boil it down, parents and teachers should teach children–consistently and repetitively–to protect their anonymity, be wary of strangers and to understand that what they post on the internet is forever.

Control the information your child posts.  Remind children not to divulge their full name, location, birthday, any identification numbers, and confirm they have restricted access to their page.  Use a screen name that keeps the child anonymous instead of using their real name.  Tell them to think before they post a statement that is questionable.   Posting personal photos could be dangerous.  You and your children should carefully consider posting “true” photos.

Children should not have dialogue with strangers online and definitely should not meet strangers in person.  We should remind children that if they feel threatened by someone or uncomfortable because of something they’ve read or seen online, to tell an adult they trust, and if it warrants it, report it to the police.

Finally, children need to understand that what they post online is posted somewhere forever and that social networks are always expanding.  Perform regular security and privacy setting checks.  Be concerned, involved and get the training you need in order to protect your child.

The good news is that there is a lot more that is positive about social media than negative.  Michele Ybarra presented formal research to the American Psychological Association’s annual meeting, which is soon to be published in the Journal of Pediatrics.  Overall, the online experiences of most young people are positive, but the risks are growing by the hour.  The level of parental involvement runs the gamut from a complete hands-off lack of awareness to a prohibition on allowing children to engage in social media at all.  Regardless, digital technology is ubiquitous, and the more we teach children to use it safely, the more equipped they will be in navigating the unavoidable digital world.

Until next week-

My best,

Lori

Sources:

US News and World Report, 4 Tips to Keep Your Teen Safe on Facebook, By Jason Koebler, Posted August 12, 2011

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recently released findings from a comprehensive study on the impact social media has on kids and families.  Clinical Report—The Impact of Social Media on Children, Adolescents, and Families; Gwenn Schurgin O’Keeffe, MD, Kathleen Clarke-Pearson, MD, COUNCIL ON COMMUNICATIONS AND MEDIA

 Visit:

http://www.pewinternet.org/~/media//Files/Presentations/2011/Feb/Pew Internet_Girl Scout Webinar PDF.pdf

www.onguardonline.gov/topics/safety-tips-tweens-teens.aspx

www.forsafersocialnetworking.com

www.ftc.gov/bcp/edu/pubs/consumer/tech/tec14.shtm

www.microsoft.com/security/family-safety/kids-social.aspx

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Academic College Readiness—Where is it Hiding?

08/22/2011 

Academically preparing high school students for college continues to present its challenges in Texas and across the U.S.  This past Wednesday, the Dallas Morning News reported that, “a majority of Texas high school graduates who took the ACT this year lacked the skills to pass the introductory college courses in math, reading and science”.  The national average is 25%, which is not significantly higher than Texas’ 24%. 

 Because Girls Inc. of Metropolitan Dallas provides out-of-school programming, which includes goal setting and college/career exploration, I am acutely interested in all students’ success, not just our girls.  As I look at these results, my mind immediately seeks to understand and develop solutions. 

 I wondered if college preparedness should start in an earlier grade.   In a study conducted by ACT in 2005, student surveys and focus groups revealed that too many middle and high school students were not taking college preparatory classes.  The study also revealed that parents and educators offering support and recommendations were not as consistently involved with the planning process as they could be for students in the eighth and ninth grades.  This improved for tenth graders –but again, starting earlier may be the key.  

 Southern Methodist University Assistant Professor Sherril English says, “Yes.  The primary challenge is starting too late.  Look at children in private schools and children with parents that have been to college.  Generally, for them, going to college is a given.  Children need to understand well before middle school that high school is not enough. They need to understand that some level of higher education is expected.” 

 The U.S. Department of Education recommends that students begin planning for college as early as sixth grade.   From an academic standpoint, this means understanding what courses would be beneficial, creating a schedule that covers the subsequent years, and taking the courses and passing them.  

 Assistant professor English, who served as a principal at St. Phillips, a private elementary school in Dallas before joining the SMU Teaching and Learning Department, believes that talking about college from the very beginning of a child’s educational experience is even better.  “Parents,” she said, “can seek help from agencies such as Girls Inc. and Boys and Girls Clubs that provide college readiness programs if they have a limited or no understanding of college preparedness.  Teachers work hard focusing on the curriculum each day in the classroom; they need the support of agencies that provide vital afterschool programming.  Additional educational enrichment, social interaction and mentors beat watching television in the afternoons.” 

 Girls Inc. conducts field trips for middle school and high school students to college and university campuses that include interaction between students and educators across a range of disciplines.  We offer experiential training in college financing through simulation programs and, academically, we provide tutors and mentors.  Students and parents have a role to play as well.  “Parents set and manage the parameters at home for the work ethic of the K-12 student.  The student is responsible for following through on that work ethic.  Not taking Advanced Placement (AP) courses is not the best way to prepare.  Taking them will help prepare the student for college and prepare them to pass SAT and ACT tests.  Success in AP classes is a good predictor of college success,” assistant professor English says.

 There is no silver bullet and no easy answers.  Educators, agencies, parents and students all have a role to play in reversing this trend.  Time is of the essence, however.  The time to begin is now. 

 Until next week-

My best,

Lori

Sources:

Dallas Morning News; Students not college-ready, by Terrence Stutz, 08/17/2011

Washington Post; 2011 ACT scores show problems with college readiness, by Valerie Strauss, 08/17/2011

The Week; Americas ‘huge’ college readiness problem, 08/18/2011

FairTest, the National Center for Fair & Open Testing; Flat ACT results, rising college prep score gaps, show failure of test-driven reform, 08/17/2011

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A GIRLS INC. DALLAS SUMMER OF DISCOVERY FOR HIGH SCHOOL TEENS

As the summer comes to an end, I would love to visit with you about our innovative and successful summer institutes for teens, one of our many new programs designed to provide college and career guidance to girls through exposure to a variety of industries and professionals. We piloted the institutes over an eight week period, beginning in June:  one institute in the field of STEM – science, technology, engineering and math; and the second in the field of Arts and Letters.   Both institutes introduced teens to a variety of career paths and the educational training required to pursue them. The girls kept journals during the summer, noting what they learned about the campuses they visited, the career paths they explored, and the new contacts they made. 

 Before I continue, I would like to recognize and thank Chase Bank for its generous sponsorship of the STEM Institute.  Both Chase and Girls Inc. are committed to create opportunities for girls to pursue careers within the fields of science, technology, engineering and math.  This was a great way for us to pursue this goal, together.

 I also wish to recognize and thank the many businesses and institutions that participated in our many educational site visits.  During each visit, employees provided excellent opportunities for the girls to learn about career paths, educational training, and on-the-job responsibilities and opportunities.  Now, enjoy the following summary of our summer institutes…and remember when you were in high school and wondering what you were going to do next in your life on the path to adulthood.

 Girls Inc. STEM Summer Institute

At Texas Woman’s University (TWU), overwhelmingly voted the most enlightening excursion by the girls, the administrators and professors went out of their way to conduct highly experiential activities, which allowed the girls to explore aspects of chemistry labs and class curriculum. 

Mountain View College (MVC) was a perfect location to explore aviation focused careers. The girls took turns sitting in the pilot’s seat to experience flight simulator training.  They learned about MVC’s degree and certification programs for pilots, dispatchers, and airport management personnel.

At Richland College’s new award-winning science building, the girls met with science professors to talk about Richland’s STEM degree programs. To the girls delight, they created their own bath products in the new state-of-the-art chemistry lab.

The girls discovered the functionality and practicality of Paul Quinn College’s Food for Good Farm and learned about the work study program that supports it. They also learned about the Social Entrepreneurship curriculum around the Farm and how it is used as an agricultural hands-on learning lab.

One of the girls attending the Institute has wanted to be a nurse since she was small.  While on the field trip to Baylor University Medical Center, she learned from an RN how many specialties there are for nurses—close to forty.  The field trip to Baylor was a turning point for her, not so much because she selected a specialty, but because she now knows a lot more about the nursing profession and the academics required.  She can begin to make more informed decisions about her future. 

At Texas Instruments, the girls met with several female engineers who were working with technology for 3D movies.  The women talked about the paths they each took to become engineers and explained their roles and the value they bring to TI. 

Girls Inc. Arts and Letters Summer Institute

The careers in the Arts and Letters portion of the Girls Inc. summer teen program included a visit to the Wade College of Design, which inspired one young woman so much that the next day, she called the admissions administrator that she had met during the visit, to get more information about enrolling. 

The girls spoke highly of their visit to the Starbucks regional office where they spent time talking to employees, holding a variety of different titles. about their career paths, pivotal successes and job responsibilities. 

The trip to North Park Mall and the Brookstone store was a cross-functional experience that appealed to both the girls interested in arts and letters as well as the STEM enthusiasts.  The girls got a behind-the-scene glimpse at high-end fashion and retail and took a deep dive into the engineering inside Brookstone’s gadgetry. 

The girls enjoyed viewing the exhibitions of art and antiquities at both the Trammell Crow Museum and the Dallas Museum of Art.  They also learned a good deal about the career path of a museum curator. 

In addition, the girls were introduced to journalism, reporting, and editing during a visit to the Dallas Morning News where they had a session with Bill Yates, from Sports Day, who gave them a little background on the different careers associated with the paper.  After that, the girls met with several editors who described their career paths and what being an editor entailed. 

Another visit was at the KD College in Dallas, a conservatory for film and acting that offers a two-year degree in a variety of on- and off-screen related careers.  The girls spent time learning about the school and the degree programs offered at the school.

To round out these field trips and activities, a representative from the Reality Store, a provider of foreclosure listings, visited with the girls and used a computer program to help them understand what they could expect in terms of salaries for specific jobs.  Then based on these forecasted incomes, the girls charted how much they could spend on a home and what discretionary income would remain.  It was an eye-opening exercise for the girls, indeed.   

And importantly, both the STEM and Arts and Letters Institutes allowed the girls to spend time with their peers and develop new friendships while enjoying highly experiential activities that will help guide their educational and career decision-making in the future.

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I hope you have enjoyed this snapshot of our new Girls Inc. summer institutes.  During the coming academic year, I will keep you informed about the strategic and innovative programs that we are developing and delivering to girls, ages 6-18.  It is truly an exciting time here at Girls Inc. as we robustly pursue our mission to Inspire all girls to be Strong Smart, and Bold.  

My best,

Lori

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The Sexualization of Girls: What’s Going on With Girls Today?

Girls, in the U.S., can set sky’s-the-limit goals for themselves and very likely achieve them.  Why then are we still hearing startling statistics pointing to the self “sexualization” of  teenage girls?  These are startling statistics. 

  •  Thirty percent of teenage girls report that they have sent sexually suggestive messages or images as “a joke.”
  • Thirty-four percent of teen girls report that they have sent or posted sexually suggestive content to “feel sexy.”
  • Twelve percent of teen girls report that they have felt “pressured” to send sexually suggestive messages or images.
  • 30% of girls’ clothing is sexualized in major sales trends.
  • More girls are cutting themselves.

Dr. Leonard Sax MD, PhD, has some ideas on why the number of girls engaging in a variety of risky behaviors is increasing.  In his latest book, Girls on the Edge: The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls-Sexual Identity, the Cyberbubble, Obsessions, Environmental Toxins, Dr.  Sax is adamant that this is a crisis and not a fad.  He believes that despite the enormous opportunities and choices that today’s girls have, they are lacking a sense of self. 

Generally, according to Dr. Sax, the girls most likely to engage in these activities get good grades, are actively involved in school related activities, and are most often affluent and white.  There are other reports that the problem is more widespread across racial and economic lines.  Regardless, Dr. Sax cites a lack of a self identify as one reason that a girl would sexualize herself.  Dr. Sax explains that when you ask these girls who they are, their response will reflect what they do and how they look, and not who they are. 

Dr. Sax also drew a distinction between fictional role models of girls today verses girls of the 20th century in his recent NPR interview.  He contrasted Nancy Drew, teenage girl detective, with Bella, the teenage girlfriend of a vampire in the Twilight series.  The character Nancy Drew is confident, driven and thoughtful.  Bella is victimized, confused and adrift.  In the Twilight series, girls are girls, but boys are men.  In the Nancy Drew series, the gender roles are more contemporaneous. 

A teenager who describes herself  only in terms of what she does and how she looks without the depth of thought about what she wants, what her beliefs are, and what she aspires to be is a candidate for risky behavior.  Dr. Sax is quick to point out that, “Girls today are bombarded with the notion that revealing your body is a valid means of self expression even a manifestation of girl power”.

Dr. Sax cautions parents to become involved and be very aware of what their daughters are texting.  

Parents, teachers, doctors, administrators, fashion designers, celebrities, cell phone providers—whoever either contributes directly to this issue or is a complacent facilitator should understand what is at stake.  Teens should feel empowered, Dr. Sax says to “help to redefine ‘hot’ as being someone who’s “confident and caring”.   

Until next week-

My best,

Lori

 Sources: 

www.leonardsax.com/girls

National Public Radio, Think, Interview with Dr. Leonard Sax; Think, The Current Crisis for Girls, Krys Boyd

American Psychological Association, The Sexualization of Girls, January 2011

TIME News Feed, The Sexualization of Girl’s Clothing

Psychology Today, Leonard Sax, MD, PhD, March 14, 2010

Psychology Today, Leonard Sax, MD, PhD, April 3, 2010

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NPR’s Claudio Sanchez Reports on the Devastating Effect of High School Drop Outs

August 1, 2011

I have an extended family of 805 girls at Girls Inc. between the ages of six and 18.  All of them are in school and yes, Girls Inc. program specialists look at all of their report cards.  If they see a trend of trouble, we assign an appropriate tutor or mentor.  Completing high school is a non-negotiable at Girls Inc.

I often write about the value of a good education and the tragedy of a substandard one.  I report often in this blog the staggering repercussions of an incomplete education that ends abruptly before high school graduation. 

This past week, KERA, Dallas’ local National Public Radio broadcaster aired four stories about the devastation of the lack of a high school education. Claudio Sanchez, the journalist and researcher on the series, did an excellent job of balancing statistics with penetrating personal stories: a 44-year-old man who cannot find a job because in the bad economy, no one will hire someone who doesn’t have a high school diploma; an ex-drug dealer with a prison record who is back in a special charter high school for drop outs and trying to stay away from the streets; Lauren Ortega, 20 years-old with two kids, who is still struggling to complete her high school degree; and Danny Lamont who missed all of the sixth grade and much of the seventh. Now at 15, Danny is still somehow supposed to enter tenth grade in the fall but he’s not especially interested. 

Sanchez seems to have encountered one of the frustrations that often plague me when I’m trying to extrapolate stories from education stats—unreliable data collecting due to a lack of standardizations; however, in many cases, he reports “schools are allowed to ‘fudge’ the numbers. For example, in Baltimore, some schools take attendance at 10 a.m. rather than 8 a.m. because they know if kids show up at all, they come in late and would be counted absent. A late roll call allows them to report them as present.” These number skewing activities designed to distort reality can be frustrating when one is trying to understand what the real issues are. 

Sanchez also reports that the current economy is especially unkind to dropouts.  He says, “The unemployment rate for dropouts right now is anywhere from 15 to 18 percent, double what it is for high school graduates.”  Mr. Buchanan, one of Sanchez’ interviewees, dropped out of school at age 18. His lack of a diploma didn’t matter. Back then, he was able to immediately got a job at Burger King.  There were other jobs after Burger King, similar kinds of jobs where a diploma didn’t matter.  Then everything changed. 

So, like Mr. Buchanan, almost 1 million high school students nationally don’t make it to graduation and as I’ve written before, this is an enormous drain on our economy and a huge waste of potential.  Many dropouts end up in the justice system.  Mr. Sanchez reports that the vast majority of dropouts today are Latinos and, he says, “almost half a million black teenagers drop out of school each year. Most will end up unemployed by their mid-30s. Six out of 10 black male dropouts will spend time in prison.”

In Sanchez’ interview with Lauren Ortega, the 20 year old mother with two children, the frustration and despair is nearly palpable as her voice and words drift through the speakers.  Like many young women, the prominent reason for dropping out of high school is pregnancy.  According to his report, “41 percent of Latinas leave high school because they get pregnant. These young women often end up with few job skills, more pregnancies and dependency on unreliable and sometimes violent men.” 

Claudio Sanchez’ reporting is thorough and well-rounded, coming full circle back to the beginning, which sounds a bit like, here is the problem, here are the facts and here are the examples.  As you listen, you become overwhelmed with the enormity of this national problem.  It is mind numbing and sad. 

Until next week-

My best,

Lori

You can access the transcripts of the Claudio Sanchez’ series at www.kera.org and http://www.npr.org/people/2101122/claudio-sanchez

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Are School Administrators Too Quick to Suspend or Expel Students

July 25, 2011

Last week the Council of State Governments’ (CST) released a study that quantified the number of Texas middle and high school students that have received disciplinary suspension or expulsion from school for hours or days. 

Of the 929,000 students followed, 553,000 were disciplined. Disciplined students averaged more than four disciplinary actions over their high school careers, for a cumulative 4.9 million infractions.  The numbers reported by the Texas Education Agency tells a similar story for Dallas specifically, reporting that 170,166 total students were disciplined with some loss of time in class and 83,226 of those students were girls. 

These numbers may lead you to believe that students are criminals and deviates but this is not the case.  Of the 4.9 million infractions reported in the CST six-year study, 92% were violations of the “code of conduct” which varied by school and administrators determined the punishment.  Codes of conduct cover things like dress code, tardiness, and other misbehaviors.  Just over 2% of the infractions were for major incidents requiring mandatory expulsion by state law. 

Here is the picture:

Number of Infractions in Texas Over Six Years Number of Infractions Reported for Dallas ISD Students in the ’09-’10 School Year Number of Infractions Reported for Dallas ISD Female Students in the    ’09-’10 School Year

4.9 million*

170,166**

83,226**

 *Source: DMN, Council of State Governments’ Report

**Source:  Texas Education Agency

 There is no doubt that any loss of in-class time impacts learning, and what impacts learning affects grades.  Because drop-out rates, graduation rates, grades and overall success in school are a concern, missed class time can be detrimental.

According to the Dallas Morning News coverage of this issue, “the Council of State Governments’ researchers followed students, finding that the more a student was disciplined, the more likely that student was to end up in the juvenile justice system.  And of all the students who were disciplined, 31% had to repeat a grade at least once. “

Texas Supreme Court Chief Justice Wallace Jefferson and state Sen. John Whitmire, chairman of the Senate Criminal Justice Committee, intend to convene a panel to study the findings, including the disproportionate number of minorities disciplined and come up with solutions which will open the door for constructive dialogue on this topic.

Until next week-

My best,

Lori

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Teen Dreaming of Law School Wins a Law Firm Experience

July 18, 2011

The secret of joy in work is contained in one word — excellence.  To know how to do something well is to enjoy it. – Pearl S. Buck

 Seventeen-year-old Danielle Burrell is the epitome of a person who “gets” exactly what Pearl Buck was talking about—and she “gets it” at a very early age.   Danielle submitted an application and an essay to Sedgwick, LLP’sDallasoffice for their Summer Attorney Girls Inc. Externship, also known as SAGE which she one with no problem. 

Ms. Burrell is a rare high school student who has already chosen her career field. She wrote in her SAGE essay that she was determined to become a corporate lawyer. After her three-week Externship at Sedgwick, she decided to change her career goal—but only slightly.  She has changed the field of law that she will pursue from corporate law to litigation law.   Her mentors encouraged her to use her spirit, outgoing personality, and communication skills in front of a jury and not stow these talents behind a desk. 

 The Externship began on June 13th and concluded on June 30th.   Ms. Burrell, a student atGatewayCharterAcademy in Oak Cliff and a member of Girls Inc. of Metropolitan Dallas for several years, worked with the associate attorneys assigned as her mentors.  As planned and with her mentor’s guidance, Danielle quickly grew to understand the multiple facets of the firm and gained an understanding of the roles the attorneys, administrators, and staff members played.  She also learned more about the legal process by being present during depositions and participating in case research and planning sessions. 

 Danielle will tell you that working at Sedgwick was a tremendous learning experience.  Her observations and hands on contributions to the inner office processes have given her new insight into the legal profession.  “My communication skills both verbally and in writing have ramped up a notch. I participated in a mock trial and realized I had to persuade an audience, not only with my words but my facial expressions, my posture, and my confidence as well.  They [Sedgwick] literally gave me communication tools to improve my public speaking which included thinking on my feet. I also researched legal statutes and learned best practices for capturing key information in writing.”  

 Danielle, who is outgoing and ambitious in pursuit of her dreams, talks confidently about what Sedgwick attorneys and staff learned from her,  “They learned to open their minds, to raise their expectations of me, and see the real me. I would take even the simplest task assigned to me and deliver something that was above and beyond their expectations.  They learned that I was daring– not shy and in the background, but up front and involved.” 

Dawn McCord, who was Danielle’s partner mentor at Sedgwick, is a trial attorney who agrees with Danielle’s assessment of the reciprocity of their experience. “We began the SAGE program with the goal of inspiring young girls to pursue higher academics and to reach for their personal and career dreams.  Danielle did not just participate in the program. . . She really seized the opportunity and made the most of her experience at Sedgwick.  We were so impressed with her spirit, drive and professional attitude.  In the short time that she was with us, she became part of the Sedgwick family and it was hard to see her go.  No doubt, Danielle touched us.  In the end, I’m not sure who was more inspired.”

 Epilogue:

Danielle’s list of top three colleges has changed after Sedgwick. Before she entered Sedgwick her mind was set onSpelmanCollege, Southern Methodist University, and UT atAustin. As of now, she plans to apply to Spellman,AustinCollege, and Southern Methodist University.  She still plans to accelerate her academics by taking college level courses while still in high school.  She still reaches for the highest grades and mentors her friends, classmates, and fellow Girls Inc. members. 

 Until next week-

My best,

Lori

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